Saturday, December 7, 2013

She is He...

How many of us love to dress and undress our man? Here are some tips in helping your man stay fly! First, know your man and his style. Fredrick's style is clean, sexy, and streamline with a touch of preppy flare! Second tip, keep it simple! Third, don't forget the cologne, because there is nothing like a good smelling man. 
This outfit encompasses all the things that my man is a strong, educated black man, and I love it!;)

 Blazer-Thrift Store similar here
V neck- Sweater - Aeropostale  similar here
Tie-Ross similar here
Grey button down- Marshall's couldn't find a decent priced one:(
Chap Jeans- Marshall's available here
Puma shoes-Old similar here
Chrome- Macy available here

In my opinion, confidence and style are two of the most attractive characteristics a woman can possess.  There's something to be said about a woman who's not afraid to walk into a crowded room all alone, or who isn't afraid to swim up steam in regards to her style. In one word, SEXY!  Tara epitomizes these two characteristics. Whether she's rockin a classic, form-fitting dress for a night out, or she's stealing one of my v neck Tees to rock with some denim,  and riding boots, she always sets the bar. That's why I hired her as my stylist.   Plus she's free. Lol
Scarf necklace- S and S available here 

Friday, November 29, 2013

Home for the Holidays!

Being away from my family for the holidays is difficult, but I feel right at home with Fredrick's family.  My aunt once said to me, "when something is easy, it's right!" Now I understand what she meant. I connected with Fredrick's family without any effort. They accepted me with open arms. I know some women, myself included, may find it difficult to fit in with your significant other's family. Can you say, "awkward"! LOL.

 My advice to  women who have apprehensions about spending the holidays, or spending time in general, with your man's family is: pray first, go in with a smile on your face, think positive, and be yourself! Go in with the spirit of acceptance for his family and they will accept you in return! Also, keep in mind,  you are doing this to please your man, and when the people that are important to him are able to enjoy each other, it gives him peace. Basically you can't be SELFISH, but SELFLESS!
Family and Friends have always been the most important aspects of my existence. So it goes without saying that I love the holiday season!!!!!  Being in a relationship with someone from another state can be challenging when trying to decide where you will spend the holiday season.  This year Tara decided to travel to the big city of Bastrop, La. to spend Thanksgiving with me, and my family.  While I was geeked about her coming home with me, I felt a little selfish because I know that family is just as important to her.  The thing that helped me move past my feelings of selfishness was watching her interact with my family. It calmed my spirit, and made my heart smile to see her laughing and clowning with my entire family as if she had been in my family all of my life.  It may seem minor, but if you've ever been involved with someone who doesn't connect with those who are most important to you, you know that it requires extra energy to ensure that neither of your relationships suffer.  I'm extremely grateful that I've been blessed with a beautiful woman who loves and cherishes my family as much as I do hers. Whether we are in Ft. Worth, or Bastrop, La., we are home for the holidays.

 My advice for a woman would be to use this time with his family to really find out what type of heart the man has.  Carefully observe how he interacts the women in his family, this will speak to the type of spirit he has towards women.  Also pay attention to the men is his family, this will give you some insight into the influences that he's had growing up.  So for either party, the holiday season can serve as a great opportunity to see where your relationship is headed.


Monday, November 25, 2013


Serendipitywhen two right things meet at the perfect time, with that being said the story goes....

When Fredrick and I met I was a broken vessel. I had given so much of myself in prior relationships. I was  left  feeling exhausted, confused, and angry. Fredrick had put so much effort into  trying to get me to see his kindness toward me, but at the time that seemed pointless. As women, we often pray that God  sends someone that will love us as he does, when that happens we refuse it, and go back to what we're comfortable with. God answered my prayers by sending Fredrick to ease the pain. I fought against it because his type of love was unfamiliar to me. Fredrick's love didn't hurt, it didn't cause me to second guess, and it was true. You see, I was accustom to dating a man "with a little street" in them,  you know a "ruff neck". Fredrick is the total opposite;  he is a "Country boy" who opens my door, and feeds me when I am hungry. He is strong when he needs to be,  soft when I need him to be, and my strength when I am weak. His entire family is this way actually. Yes, he is unique, a rare find.No, he isn't  perfect, and it was actually his imperfections that shaped him for me, and ultimately led him to me. I recall asking him once, " why didn't you leave me?" His response was,  “because my assignment isn't  complete!" Ladies, this man, this man as I shake my head, stayed the course, and loved me past my pain by praying for me, loving my children, and being patience! Another thing is I didn't go looking for him, God lead him to me! God never left my side even in my mess, and he has shown me that in so many ways, and one of those ways is through Fredrick. The bible verse states, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves a crush spirit!" Psalms 34:18
I've always been amazed at God's ability to answer our prayers, not on our time, but always on time. What leaves me even more amazed, and in awe, is God's ability to guide us along a path that leads us to that exact place, to that exact person, necessary for our spiritual, emotional, personal, and professional growth, healing, and ultimately happiness. When Tara and I bumped into each other (literally), I had no idea that she was sent by God to lead me out of darkness. This woman has been nothing but a blessing, and inspiration to my soul. She inspires me to be a higher me. She is constantly challenging me to be a better man of God, a better businessman, and a deeper thinker. Instead of judging my past, and pointing out my flaws, she kisses my mistakes, and acts as a healing aid for all of my wounds that are the result of past experiences. I love this beautiful, strong, brilliant black woman, because she is truly a gift from God, sent to lead
me to victory