Struggling!

Someone is struggling in their marriage today. I encourage you to pull out the engagement pictures, wedding album, or the marriage certificate and mediate, on the reason you got married in the first place. Now turn up the love music, have a sip of wine, grab your hubby/wifey by the hand, look them straight in the eyes and fall out laughing, because whatever is causing you'll to struggle, isn't that serious in the first place. Life is short, and death is permanent! Love, love on the one you with!

Love you for loving them

A message from my Fiance to my son!!!! Thank you for loving my kids!!!!

Food for thought: If he/she can't love your children, he/she can't love you!

Spending time learning about God....

When you take time to learn about God,  it's amazing how you start to view, and change your mind on certain things.Acts 9  tells us that Saul was rejected because of his immaturity.Saul's/our affliction was to make him/us stronger, so that we can be prepared to do the things that God has called us to do. Stop kicking against the prick, and walk in God's purpose for your life! #love #God'schild

Dress: www.nordstormsrack.com

Shawl: Ross

Shoes:www.nordstorms.com

Accessories: Polk-a-dot hat- by www.facebook.com/twistedsimplicity

clutch:www.facebook.com/bitznpieces

Tie & shirt: Marshalls 

Vest & pants:www.dillards.com

Shoes: old

Sharing God's Blessing

I was given the opportunity to share my miracle with a group of older women. It was such a blessing to share, and be received amongst this wiser group. I felt a sense of relief, and peace as I shared my story. It was a blessing to also have Fredrick there as my support system, along with my family. Lesson: When you stay on God's side, you can never go wrong! #love #Godschild

Shirt here:www.express.com

Skirt here: www.forever21.com

Shoes: www.nordstroms.com

Accessories( including bowtie): www.facebook.com/bitznpieces

Mens Shirt. www.oldnavy.com

Pants and shoes old

The Right One!

A very wise, and beautiful women once said to me, "when you find the right one, love is easy!" Man was she spot on!!!!! Loving this women is by far the easiest, and most enjoyable part of each and every one of my days. She continues to inspire, and push me way out of my comfort zone. She leads me while allowing me to lead! She gives me comfort, and peace when my mind, and spirit are frustrated and restless! She wraps her heart around my worries, my fears, my desires, and my dreams, until they intertwine so tightly with who she is that they become her own!  She has taught me how to relax, how to dance, and how to LMAO at me! So I say to her, "baby you are so right; when you find the right one, LOVE IS EASY!"

He is so freaking HOT!

He shopped while I took selfies!
Jumper from Marshals and blazer from K & G

Meal of the week!

Stuffed bell peppers the #healthy way!
Turkey meat, quinoa, and bell peppers. Season to taste with salt, pepper, tomatoes, onions, and garlic. Delicious and healthy!

He takes great care of me!

A part of his love for me is making sure im healthy! Now he is extending that to the family! 

If you lead....

Preparing to follow wherever God leads you! #love

Style is....

This man!

Love doesn't hurt!

Yesterday the #RayRice video happened thanks to TMZ. I have to say I was shocked by the comments on social media from everyone especially women. I’m disappointed at the fact that some women can have a complete disregard for other women and their struggles. We must show a united front, because, domestic violence is on the rise? 

1. 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence during her lifetime. 
2. Women experience more than 4 million physical assaults and rapes because of their partners, and men are victims of nearly 3 million physical assaults.
3. Women are more likely to be killed by an intimate partner than men Women ages 20 to 24 are at greatest risk of becoming victims of domestic violence.
4. Every year, 1 in 3 women who is a victim of homicide is murdered by her current or former partner. (www.safehaven.org)

A lot of women can't understand how this women, or any women, could stay after being treated this way. How could she then go on and marry a man that abuses her. Well I don’t believe there's a cut-and-dry answer to that question. However, love can be toxic, and very addictive... like a drug. When this is the case, it becomes a very volatile situation when it involves the wrong person. We, as women, may stay, or tolerate, the behavior a number of different reasons: kids, money, sex, comfort, low self esteem, etc….But, in my opinion, the main reason we stay because we truly believe we can change him. But the harsh reality is WE CAN'T! We think we can fix him, make him put his hands down, make him stop cussing us out, make him stop cheating, etc… We revert back to that emotion of if only we would change whatever we did to set him off in the first place. We start making excuses for them. Listen ladies we all heard them before: I'm sorry! It won't happen again! I love you! I have a problem! Well the only true statement is the latter! He has a problem, and it has nothing to do with you, or anything that you've done! I grew up around so called “men” who put their hands on women, and for every time he apologized, he eventually did it all over again, and each time the violence got worse! I used “we”, because we all have been this young lady one time or another. We all have suffered some form of abuse...emotional, mental, or physical. So let’s stop judging (#JanayRice) her and pray for her! STAND UP AGAINST ABUSE BY LOVING YOURSELF ENOUGH TO LEAVE!!!

It's Not About Us!

This past weekend, life presented the opportunity for Fredrick's ex-wife and I to meet.  I was very apprehensive, because you know we women can be catty.  I have never spoken to her before... not so much as hi, so to be in her home  felt extremely awkward. My apprehensions were intensified as soon as we arrived.  She answered  the door wearing...well lets just say "dressed inappropriately", to put it mildly. I thought "hmm, interesting", Lol. But I still showed myself as friendly.   I had to remember that we were there for his daughter, and it was important to show her that we are all united in our love for her.  I love his daughter like she’s my own, so I immediately  presented myself as if I was meeting the significant other of my children's father.  I was nice, friendly, relaxed, and down to earth. I shared my opinions and made small talk to let her know, "it's ok, I’m not "that" woman.  I have always believed that it was my job, as a mother, to get along with the woman in my children's father's life... after all, if she's in his life, she's in their lives, and if she's a part of their lives, she is absolutely a part of mine. Showing myself friendly, and establishing a comfortable relationship has always been key. My children have never had any issues,or  complained about being mistreated. I will add: my kid's 2nd mom is great, and I appreciate all she does for my children! Needless to say, the trip to H-town was a pleasant one, and I hope that she and I can build a good relationship from here.  To top it off, "our" daughter had a blast having her parents together in the same city...And she's who mattered most!

Whatcha looking for with yo looking....

A overheard a #woman say,  " I'm  tired of being single! I'm gonna find me a good man." I thought to myself, " that was me... impatient, insecure, and scared." I felt all of those emotions because I didn't want to face the fear of being alone! "I'm not getting any younger!  I have two kids!" These were the thoughts that fueled and fed my fear.  I didn't realize  that my "searching"  was a major part of the problem. Not realizing that I was blocking my view of who God had for me. Experience  has shown me that when you continuously ask God for something, rather right or wrong, he will eventually give it to you... either to bless you, or to teach you a lesson. Every man I searched for, and found, the relationship was already doomed because I was out of order. #God doesn't want us (women) out looking; that's not our place.  Go through your difficult season of loneliness, learn yourself, explore,believe and be patient! Your Boaz is searching for you!

A Letter to Chipmunk

Fate brought us together
Your spirit drew me in
Your intelligence makes me proud
Your beauty makes me smile
Your strength energizes me
Your humor heals my soul
And your heart makes me love you!
You are my daughter!!!!

"Supporting your spouse during a difficult time"

#love

Two is better than one!

Labor Day was perfect! Brunch with the McCollums, a much needed nap, then ended the day in the kitchen. #Health and fitness is a huge part of who we are, so we decided to grill turkey burgers, turkey links, and asparagus. We also made Fredrick's famous detox water for a three day cleanse.

For our daughters

I have experienced a lot of heartbreak and disrespect from men. Eventually I realized that the majority of the abuse happened, not because I deserved it, but because I allowed it. Thinking that if I loved him right, or if I was "nice" enough, he wouldnt disregard my feelings. As mothers we must share our downfalls with our daughters. We must let them know that they're the most valuable beings on earth, and that their happiness is directly connected to knowing their worth, and settling for nothing less than the utmost #love and respect. God created us to love and nurture, and it starts with self; there is an amazing power in the word "NO"!

#Giveaway time!!!

It's**** #GIVEAWAY**** time!!!! In order for love to enter your heart you must be open to it! This "Open Heart" bracelet will not tarnish, the winner picks color!
****RULES**** You must follow us @ www.facebook.com/ebonyardor,  share to your wall, tag a friend, follow the blog at www.Ebonyardor.blogspot.com,  follow us on instagram(ebonyardor) and tag a one friend. The drawing  will be held on 9/14/2014 #blacklove #love #marriage #engagement #couples

I will follow!

#blacklove

Educator Love!

Our quest to become educators is how are paths crossed! #sixgrade #seniors #blacklove #couples #marriage #engaged

Love Is The Key

Love Is The Key

When society steals her identity and leaves her feeling everything other than beautiful,
LOVE IS THE KEY!
When the past hurt, past pain, and past disappointments that are her reality chip away at her security, and her ability to trust,
LOVE IS THE KEY!
When her God-given desire to love, and to nurture strip away her armor, leaving her naked, vulnerable, and unprotected,
LOVE IS THE KEY!
When the harsh reality how uncivilized our civilization was founded leaves him feeling invisible,
LOVE IS THE KEY!
When the echo of the word “no!”, and the boom from the doors being slammed in his face ring loud in his head, leaving him feeling frustrated, and irrelevant,
LOVE IS THE KEY!
When his journey to be YOUR KING, YOUR BOAZ, YOUR PROTECTOR, drains him of every ounce of manhood that he could pull from deep within,
LOVE IS THE KEY!

Fellas: Affirm that queen, provide for that queen, and protect that queen!!!!!!!!!!!
Sistas: Affirm that King, pay attention to that King, and recharge that King!!!!!!!!!! #blacklove #love #couples #marriage #engaged

Make Time For Who Matters

There's nothing that disrupts the flow, and connection between lovers like a busy schedule.  You know, the early morning departures, the long grueling hours, and the late night arrivals back home...with only enough time to eat, shower, and steal a few hours of sleep before the routine begins again.  And the weekends, well more often than not, they are only an extension of a very long work

week, except for the few seconds you manage to squeeze in to steal a quick kiss, and a little flirting.  I mean, yea we make quick calls during the day to say hi, or send a cute text to let her know she's on our mind, but is that enough?  Well if you're anything like me, its definitely not enough! SO WHAT DO YOU DO????? What do you do when you're missing your baby, your lover, your best friend, and you have everything to give, except time?  Well I've been working 12-14 hour days for the last three weeks, and I know exactly what I'm gonna do...MAKE TIME! I refuse to let the monotony of punching the clock and paying bills disturb the groove that Tara and I have.  So I think that a "special evening" is long overdue.  Y'all know what I'm talking about...a night that requires candles, wine, jazz, and of course, ...#blacklove #love #marriage #engaged

Fashionably Delicious!

I love summer!  All the color, fun, and excitement it provides! There's something about being with the one you love during this season. Whether on a stroll through the park, holding hands along the beach, or taking in an outdoor concert, these outfits are perfect for the occasion! Keep it simple, but sexy, and the night is sure to be a pleasurable one!;) #blacklove #fashion #love #couples #marriage #engaged

Love Tip Friday!!!

Have you ever taken a road trip, and found the things you experienced along the way to be just as beautiful as your destination? Intimacy is no different! The next time you're intimate with your partner, enjoy the ride! Be playful, wrestle, whisper, nibble, tickle...just be sure to "buckle up"

We're Two Fly

We’re Two Fly!!!!!!

It is an awesome feeling when you find someone who you connect with spiritually, mentally, and physically, but when that someone is able to challenge you, and push you, well that’s what we Louisianans call “Lagniappe”, or a little something extra! That being said, with Tara I believe I hit the jackpot!

So as we were planning our trip to Miami, Tara said, “don’t forget your outfit for the flight, something casual and comfortable.”  Well, being so heavily involved in athletics I thought, “oh that’s easy, sweats, athletic tee, and sneakers…DONE!”  I guess she read my mind, because she said, “and don’t’ think for a minute that you’re walking next to me in the airport with those sweats and a tee shirt on! LOL!  So, kinda frustrated, my response was, “then show me what comfy and casual looks like!”  Without batting an eye she says, “Ok, bring me a pair of your old jeans, get your red loafers, and run to Wal-Mart and grab a pack of white V –neck tees… Oh and by the way, I need to borrow your corral linen shirt.”  Viola! 

My point is, even when it comes to fashion, this chick pushes me to step outside of my own ideas, and comfort zone! And I have to admit, I kinda like it! Can you say, “We’re two Fly?” No pun intended.

So fellas don’t be afraid to let your girl dress you! After all, if she’s feelin the look, then it’s the right look!!!!

Back That Thang Up!

So Fredrick and I attended a birthday party at Brickhouse in Arlington Tx. We are not big on clubbing unless it involves swing dancing, which this place doesn’t on this particular night.  Nevertheless, the DJ had us feeling young again with his selection of ole school R&B, and hip hop from Houston to Louisiana, mixed with some West Coast and we had a partaaay! We were grooving, and the drinks were flowing for the majority of the patrons, which leads me to my point. LOL! 

Ladies what do you do when someone is trying to push up on your husband/man? Well, that was my exact situation that night. I mean I know the brother looks good and all, but don’t get beside yourself. We were standing along the wall and the lady grabs a chair and starts to back it up and twerk something all at the same time. For the elders that mean she was shaking her money maker like a salt shaker on Fredrick. Her dress was practically undone, and panties were showing. I politely moved him to the side and took this dance for him so when she turns around to see his face she was staring directly at me!!!! LOL! I think we all were shocked, I mean the nerve. I remember a time when this would have gone bad really quickly, but because I’m more mature, I wasn’t concerned about the woman at all!  She was extremely intoxicated, and so not his type, the situation was actually more funny than threatening. Now had she been a “Beyoncé” type you know built like a “brick house” ,no pun intended, I would have kicked her in that very thing she was trying to back up! Her friends immediately came over to apologize for her actions. Do you think I handled the situation properly? What would you have done?

"Blended Families" with The Marshalls

Love Tip Friday!

STOP!!!!!

Have you taken time out to flirt with your mate via text! Lol, no I’m not talking about sexting, but just “flirt texting!”  You know "hey baby I love you!" or send a selfie telling the other person how "you are nothing without them." I know, I know you think it’s corny, but it let's your partner know you're thinking of them. It’s not always money or time, but the thought that counts. You know "flirt texting" "I wish you were here!" "I miss you! I can’t wait to see you!" or "About last night, did you enjoy it? I did!!!"

~Ebony Ardor

Love Seat with the McCollums "Intimacy"

The Engagement!!!!

Fredrick purposed  to me 30,000 feet in air!!! We were on a flight to Miami, and I was totally surprised!!!!!! When the flight attendant first called me to the front of the plane  I didn't move; I just sat there thinking, "What????? Why????" LOL! Reluctantly I made my way to the front of the plane. When I got there the lady said, " we just wanted everyone to see your braid."  Standing there confused, and puzzled, I said, "Huh?"   As I stood there trying to process what was going on, Fredrick began singing Eric Benet and Tamia's "Spend my life with you ! I was in complete shock, my knees were knocking, tears were flowing, and  my stomach was filled with butterflies  from the excitement. Then Fredrick ran to the front of the plane!!!!!  I said "YES"!!!!!!!!